You are very welcome!
Did your deceased cousin take the test at FTDNA (Family Tree DNA)? If so, and someone else is monitoring his account, there may be a chance to have his dna tested through their Family Finder (autosomal) test--IF his sample was saved.
How does the female cousin relate to you? Does the deceased cousin have any living children or siblings? Those will probably be your best bet. If you are in the 2nd-3rd cousin range, you should have quite a bit of dna in common from your common ancestor which will easily show up on an autosomal test.
Good luck and Happy Thanksgiving!