Laura Lee you can't give up, just check out a different avenue. I once wrote 48 letters to the same name in Germany and I hit the jackpot. You just never know when it will be your lucky day. I found a Charles R. Schneider on Ancestry.com from PA. born in 1926/27 which I estimated your mother to be. But the possibility of the R. in his name standing for Rome is slim because the father was Raymond. Are you sure the middle name was Rome? Do you have any idea of where he was born? Have you found him in CA.? My maiden name was Schnieder.