While surfing I ran across your message regarding Eleanor "Nellie" Oiler/Oyler. I am looking for information on Eleanor also as she is in my family tree.
I have been unable to find out who her parents were, but strongly suspect that she may have been a Sister to my GrGrandmother, Charlotte Elizabeth Oiler Bess, whose parents were John Oiler and Rebecca Bess. My records show she was born in Botetourt Co. Va. in 1808. She married Henry Bess who was a Brother to my GrGrandfather John C. Bess. I haven't found a marriage record for them either.
Very confusing, isn't it?
Can you add anything? I would be happy to exchange information with you. Mary