I posted the following message to the Bartlett and the Cole families' message boards. I'll let you know if I get any responses. Has any effort been made to research Judith?
I am researching a Judith Bartlett Cole who married John Milam circa 1739. Though there is no proof whatsoever that she was either a Bartlett or a Cole. This is based upon family tradition, and that many generations of descendants of this couple have the given name of Bartlett. She may have been the "Widow Cole" when she married John Milam.
John Milam is found as early as 1757 in Louisa County, Virginia. It is possible that he came to Virginia from Boston, Massachusetts, though this isn't proven. It could be that he was always in Virginia. By 1763 he is in Brunswick County, Virginia, and then by 1764 in Halifax County, Virginia. After the Revolutionary War he migrated to South Carolina where he died in York County in 1789 leaving a will that names his wife Judith.
If you have a missing Judith in the Bartlett or Cole families in the early 1700s in either Virginia or Massachusetts, I would enjoy hearing from you.