I have information that might help, if your still looking. I have information on a Ben, Benedict Joseph Durbin Sr. But it's not complete. He was married to Amanda Olive Bowman (9/26/1858-12/11/1951. I believe their grave sites in Holliday, Mo. You can find the pics for their grave sites on find a grave.com
I found some information on Missouri Digital heritage that states they had at least four kids but who they were I can't say for sure. But I know they had a Jr. Who is also married in Holliday.
Hope this helps. If you find out anything else please let me know, I believe my husband is her great great great grandson.