Do you know when and were Mary died? that would probably help a lot. It was another family member that gave me the information that he had remarried to Elizabeth "Betty" Smith.
I will email you with all the roll numbers, it would be great if you were able to check it out over there. I do Mary Whitlows parents as William Whitlow and Martha Farrar. I need to go back to VA and do some more digging. Also TN.
I really appreciate all this.