1901 tragedy? James' daughter Rhoda committed suicide (see the attached).
Were Horace and Sally living in Stuyvesant in 1860? Yes. Stockport in 1855, Stuyvesant in 1860.
New York State Census, 1855
Name Horace Eddo
Event Place Stockport, Columbia, New York, United States
Relationship to Head of Household Head
Birth Year (Estimated) 1803
Horace Eddo Head M 52
Sally A Eddo Wife M 48
Margret J Eddo Child F 19
James P Eddo Child M 17
Albert P Eddo Child M 15
Citing this Record: "New York State Census, 1855," database with images, FamilySearch"
United States Census, 1860
Name Horrace Eddo
Event Place Stuyvesant, Columbia, New York, United States
Birth Year (Estimated) 1802
Birthplace New Jersey
Horrace Eddo M 58 New Jersey
Sally Eddo F 53 Massachusetts
Jane Eddo F 23 New York
Citing this Record: "United States Census, 1860", database with images, FamilySearch"
In case you don't have it, I also attached one of the news items that covered Horace's 1869 suicide. Did not see a standard obit.